Friday, September 17, 2010

Thoughts on marriage

Let me first say that I am neither a marriage counselor nor an expert, we are married not even 5 years yet, plus a little 22 months girl now, so your thoughts or comments are welcome.

Here are some of my observations (in non particular order) on our marriage and others:
1. It's not perfect - a journalist once interviewed Billy Graham or someone and asked him if he ever considered divorcing his wife. His reply was: "Divorce never, but murder many times".
2. It requires sacrifice(s) on both parts. Eg. for myself, especially since our little one came along, I hardly have time for myself, gone were the days when i could play tennis with my mates 3-4 times a week. For my wife, her sacrifice is countless, her focus right now is mainly little Naomi, only once in a while she would go somewhere just to chill out herself while I look after Naomi.
3. For some couples (which have been married for a long time), even though they are still technically married, living under same roof in the same room, the relationship is more like housemates, rather than a couple. I pray that we won't become like that.
4. Not to mention parenting......

So, what can be done to improve marriages? (Again, in non particular order)
1. Learn to overlook little things - it's hard for some couples, I must confess even at times I'd pick on little things, and then argument started. Looking back, those trivial things were not worth an argument at all.
2. Learn to compromise - some things are just not worth fighting.
3. Put your spouse first - whatever his/her needs are, try to meet those needs.
4. Put God at the centre of the relationship.
5. I'm sure there are more tips available from the experts.

I don't claim that I have done those things, but I do strive and try my best to love my wife and girl, at times it's not easy.... But with God's help, I always pray that I will be a good husband and daddy.

God bless you if you are reading this blog.

-Jr-

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Blogging from N900

Just got a Nokia N900 recently, this is a cool phone, I mean MID (mobile internet device). Of course this device is not targetted to mass market such as iPhone or Android users, but I am very happy with this device, it can do pretty much everything I need to do.

On another note, time really flies, now our little one is running around and talking non-stop.

Right this very moment, I was on the way home, commuting on public transport, which is not so reliable, but hey, I guess Metro Trains is trying their best to improve. Anyway, reaching my station very shortly, hope to blog more soon :)

-jr-