Recently I went through my bookshelf and found a dusty book called "5 love languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman. Started reading again, and I must say, I have been challenged again to speak with the right language.
If you want to learn more about loving people, I highly recommend this book, whether you are a Christian or not, we all need to love and need to be loved. And we need to communicate our love with the language that is understood by the other party.
If you use Kindle, the Kindle edition is also available at a cheaper price. This book should be on everyone's bookshelf, that is of course if you want to become more loving person, and be loved :)
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Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Friday, March 23, 2012
Friday, September 17, 2010
Thoughts on marriage
Let me first say that I am neither a marriage counselor nor an expert, we are married not even 5 years yet, plus a little 22 months girl now, so your thoughts or comments are welcome.
Here are some of my observations (in non particular order) on our marriage and others:
1. It's not perfect - a journalist once interviewed Billy Graham or someone and asked him if he ever considered divorcing his wife. His reply was: "Divorce never, but murder many times".
2. It requires sacrifice(s) on both parts. Eg. for myself, especially since our little one came along, I hardly have time for myself, gone were the days when i could play tennis with my mates 3-4 times a week. For my wife, her sacrifice is countless, her focus right now is mainly little Naomi, only once in a while she would go somewhere just to chill out herself while I look after Naomi.
3. For some couples (which have been married for a long time), even though they are still technically married, living under same roof in the same room, the relationship is more like housemates, rather than a couple. I pray that we won't become like that.
4. Not to mention parenting......
So, what can be done to improve marriages? (Again, in non particular order)
1. Learn to overlook little things - it's hard for some couples, I must confess even at times I'd pick on little things, and then argument started. Looking back, those trivial things were not worth an argument at all.
2. Learn to compromise - some things are just not worth fighting.
3. Put your spouse first - whatever his/her needs are, try to meet those needs.
4. Put God at the centre of the relationship.
5. I'm sure there are more tips available from the experts.
I don't claim that I have done those things, but I do strive and try my best to love my wife and girl, at times it's not easy.... But with God's help, I always pray that I will be a good husband and daddy.
God bless you if you are reading this blog.
-Jr-
Here are some of my observations (in non particular order) on our marriage and others:
1. It's not perfect - a journalist once interviewed Billy Graham or someone and asked him if he ever considered divorcing his wife. His reply was: "Divorce never, but murder many times".
2. It requires sacrifice(s) on both parts. Eg. for myself, especially since our little one came along, I hardly have time for myself, gone were the days when i could play tennis with my mates 3-4 times a week. For my wife, her sacrifice is countless, her focus right now is mainly little Naomi, only once in a while she would go somewhere just to chill out herself while I look after Naomi.
3. For some couples (which have been married for a long time), even though they are still technically married, living under same roof in the same room, the relationship is more like housemates, rather than a couple. I pray that we won't become like that.
4. Not to mention parenting......
So, what can be done to improve marriages? (Again, in non particular order)
1. Learn to overlook little things - it's hard for some couples, I must confess even at times I'd pick on little things, and then argument started. Looking back, those trivial things were not worth an argument at all.
2. Learn to compromise - some things are just not worth fighting.
3. Put your spouse first - whatever his/her needs are, try to meet those needs.
4. Put God at the centre of the relationship.
5. I'm sure there are more tips available from the experts.
I don't claim that I have done those things, but I do strive and try my best to love my wife and girl, at times it's not easy.... But with God's help, I always pray that I will be a good husband and daddy.
God bless you if you are reading this blog.
-Jr-
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